Friday, January 27, 2006

Intimacy and the Heart of God

By Jaima

Have you ever wondered how Abraham was able to make peace with God’s promise, which had yet to be fully realized at the time of his death? Yes, he was a great man of faith, but where did that come from? He had no church, no pastor, and no family heritage to encourage him. The answer lies in his relationship with God. Abraham had to know the heart of God, had learned to trust him and had developed an intimate relationship with him. They had to have a proven relationship where the nature of God’s heart towards Abraham had been consistently and persistently revealed over time and found worthy of confidence. Abraham and God had established an intimate relationship that can only come from an intentional pursuit of each other and each other’s heart. How was this accomplished? Prayer.

Prayer can mean substantially different things to different people and there are many approaches to prayer detailed in theological writings. But at it’s core, prayer is designed to move us into a greater intimacy with the most high, a personal ongoing conversational dialogue. When the scriptures say we are to pray without ceasing (Thessalonians 5:17), the point is for us to include God in all of our daily routines, our moment-by-moment busyness as well as our life changing choices. He desires to be just as real to us at the grocery store as in deep prayer in a church sanctuary. God wants us to share all of ourselves with him, our fears, our hopes, our everyday concerns. Like any true covenant relationship, he wants to be the priority in our life, and he wants us to pursue relationship with him. How? Through prayer. Prayer is our doorway for opening up dialogue with God. Too often, however, we approach prayer as either the opportunity to approach God with our laundry list of needs or as our last resort when all else fails us.

I grew up reciting a few specific prayers in our church prayer book along with a couple of psalms. In and of themselves, they were fine. Except God calls us to more. He wants our whole heart, our whole attention. He is fiercely jealous of our attention. The book of Hosea points out the lengths to which God is willing to pursue us even when we refuse to recognize him as our path of life. “I will heal their waywardness and love them freely…” (Hosea 14:4). While the prayers I learned were fine, they did not really open up conversation with God. Where was the invitation for God to respond? How did I allow him to direct me, guide me, answer me? I just used to say my prayers and then moved onto the next thing. How many of us would call up our spouse and tell them hello, ask them to pick up some milk on the way home from work, and then hang up, never once listening for a response? No wonder so many people are confused about the role prayer should play in their Christian walk. Those types of conversations do not lead to great intimacy in a marriage nor do they draw us deeper in our relationship with God.

The other common vision of prayer is the last vestige of comfort when all efforts on our part to alter a challenging situation have failed. When someone is hurting or we are in despair, we may turn to prayer as the only thing left. And prayer can bring comfort in those dark places. But it can also bring so much more. If I tell my spouse I am having a bad day, he can offer me words of comfort or give me a hug. But if I ask, he can offer so much more – a different perspective, or a strategy to deal with the challenge before me, a reminder how God has met me in other dark places, an encouraging word to fight the good fight. God would like to do that for us as well. We need to stay present and engaged with him in our prayer time, and allow him room to respond.

Too many times we expect God to stay in the box we know and understand. If he doesn’t meet us there, we assume he did not answer our prayers. While God will meet us there, we are limiting his ability to act on our behalf. Many times we do not need God to answer our prayers in the manner we ask. We really require a different perspective on the situation at hand, a Godly perspective, and maybe even a little divine guidance on what strategy he would recommend. We must fight to remain still enough to hear his response. In Revelations 3:20 God promises “If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and him with me.” What a wonderful promise.

In order to approach God in prayer as a conversation, we need to understand God’s heart towards us is good. God wants more for us than we want for ourselves. He is the ultimate restorer of our souls. Jesus came not only for our salvation, but also for our resurrection and restoration. God wants us restored to our original design, accomplishing his kingdom purposes in our daily lives. In I Peter 5:10 it says “And the God of all grace…will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.” God wants us to be more than what we see in ourselves. We are limited by our flesh colored glasses, but he sees clearly all we were originally intended to be, before our falleness separated us from God and ushered in doubt about God’s intentions towards us and our relationship with him. In moving into the fullness of our original creation, allowing Jesus into our hearts that have been circumcised unto God (Ezekiel 11:19 & 36:26, Romans 2:29), God receives all the glory, praise and honor. Many times we pray with both hands over our ears, afraid of God’s response, afraid he will say no to our petitions. Yet if we truly understand the heart of God, the “no” is not really a problem because we can trust that God is looking out for our greater good and is about a work greater than we can see in our small moment in time.

My prayers now are often like the half finished sentences I have with my husband. I will start a sentence and my husband will finish it for me. I do the same with him. It comes from the familiarity developed over years of conversations and shared experiences allowing us to see into each other’s hearts. Now my conversations with God are similar. I will start off thinking of something weighing on my heart yet if I listen, God will answer me, even without my asking, and lead me into a fuller picture, a more complete picture. When someone asks for prayer, I will go to God and ask him how he would like me to pray on that issue. Instead of approaching God with my agenda, and manipulating him into answering my concerns, I find prayer much more effective if I ask God how he wants me to handle a specific request or issue. Prayer has become a living integrated part of my life. Instead of being a chore or the last resort of a desperate heart, prayer has become an energizing, power-filled relationship that constantly affirms God’s abiding presence, renewing and transforming me from the inside out. God is more real, more tangible, more alive. So like Abraham, I have the blessed assurance that God is about a mighty work regardless of how much is visible on this plane of existence. God is calling all of us into deeper intimacy, a more personal relationship with him, as we approach him in prayer.

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